WEED represents “W is “what would you want,” D is “what are doing about it”, E is evaluation”, and p is setting a plan” into motion (Easterner, 2006, p. 21). The case study of Natalie beneath is an occasion of how battle can affect the alternate options one makes in attempt to fulfill one’s 5 major desires. The case study will give attention to how regret, acceptance, or belonging can affect somebody’s choices and the way in which overcoming hostile emotions can also assist one dwell a further fulfilled life. CASE HISTORY OF NATALIE Natalie is a worthwhile lawyer in Washington D. C. , who advocates for these inside the LIGHT group who face discrimination inside the work place.
Natalie is a lesbian and has been alongside together with her companion Michelle for five years. Natalie grew up in a Caucasian greater middle class neighborhood, in Georgia and is an solely teen. Natalie met Michelle whereas in laws faculty in Virginia. When the started relationship Natalie nonetheless had not come out to her dad and mother, Natalie initially handed Michelle off as her roommate. Natalie obtained right here out to her dad and mother after graduation and decided to maneuver to Washington D. C. To be with Michelle. Michelle proposed to Natalie and Natalie accepted. An identical intercourse marriage is allowed in Washington D. C.. After the wedding, Natalie and Michelle are planning to have a child.
Natalie dad and mother know that Natalie is a lesbian nevertheless they overlook this reality and conceal it from others. Natalie flew her dad and mother to Washington D. C. For a weekend to tell them of her thrilling info. Natalie dad and mother have been terribly upset, embarrassed, and threatened to disown Natalie if she married Michelle and began a family. Natalie has put her bridal ceremony on preserve not wanting to lose her relationship alongside together with her dad and mother. Michelle thinks that Natalie is allowing her dad and mother to resolve their lives and has now given Natalie a deadline to determine. Natalie has succumbed to despair and is now looking for treatment to help her handle the state of affairs.
CASE ANALYSIS To create a workable and environment friendly environment is its very important the therapist create a foundation by being courteous, determined, enthusiastic, company, and actual with the consumer (Capsize & Gross, 2007). Cross Culturally, actuality treatment could also be very adaptable. Having a workable info base of the social group whom your working with is important in adapting the WEED system to satisfy the desires of the consumer. Will probably be essential that I familiarize myself with members of the LIGHT group, notably hose who’re nonetheless closeted about their sexuality and individuals who’ve Solely within the close to previous come out to their family members.
Therapist have to look at their very personal personal bias and Judgments on the door sooner than coming into treatment intervals. Establishing a optimistic environment will allow the tactic of actuality treatment to be extra sensible. Natalie ought to actually really feel safe in disclosing knowledge and have the power to share her true feeling with out concern of Judgment. To help Natalie work by way of her points it will likely be important that Natalie is able to set up what she actually wants. In discussing wants, questions requested have been; what would you want from our dad and mother? What would you want from Michelle? What would you want in your self correct now? What would you want in your self ultimately?
What would you want out of treatment? Determining exactly what one wants helps set up what need is being fulfilled. Purchasers need to be devoted with a objective to realize self actualization and set up how their current behaviors are normally not meeting their 5 major desires (Mother, 2008). Natalie is conscious of that she must marry Michelle nevertheless she loves her dad and mother and would not must lose them. Natalie wants understanding and acceptance from her dad and mother; she wants to essentially really feel like she belongs. Natalie can be apprehensive about making the wrong different she regrets suspending her bridal ceremony and loves Michelle and would actually really feel way more regret if Michelle left her.
Regret can transform into self-betrayal and expose a person’s precise self comparatively than the most effective self that they portray to the world (Cameron, 2009). Natalie wants a family and to be joyful. Natalie wants Michelle to be further understanding about her dad and mother and be affected particular person with them. Natalie hopes that treatment will help her resolve her points and make greater choices for the long run. Now that Natalie and I’ve acknowledged her wants, we take a look at what she has been owing to carry out her wants. It is also very important that Natalie come to phrases with the face that she will’t administration her dad and mother.
Natalie is a lesbian and her dad and mother do not approve. No matter how loads Natalie dad and mother ignore or attempt to cowl this reality it would not change the reality that she’s going to on no account be heterosexual. Natalie ought to moreover come to phrases that her dad and mother don’t know what’s biggest for her life and she or he is the one one who may make that decision. Regret stems from folks incapacity to take accountability for his or her habits (Cameron, 2009). Natalie regrets suspending her together with and blames her dad and mother for her actions. Natalie is caught between her wonderful self and her precise self and is misplaced.
Natalie is conscious of if she continues with suspending the wedding Michelle will depart her. Attempting to degree the finger at one different is not taking accountability for ones actions. Natalie ought to focus with a objective to see she will’t change totally different people or the earlier. To attain success in treatment Natalie ought to acknowledge the need to vary, which she does. Evaluation is a severe part of the WEED system. Now that Natalie wants, movement, and path have been acknowledged, we have now to contemplate the reasonableness of her resent actions, and if she has, a possibility of getting what she wants.
The need to belong is very efficient. Ones happiness straight correlates with the facility to effectively maintain every outdated and new relationships (Wobbling, 2005). As reoccurring themes, appear all through the session summarizing statements that Natalie makes in quite a few strategies can also assist Natalie rethink or take into account her private habits. It moreover assist in retaining Natalie centered on what is going on on now in her life and strikes her away from inserting blame or making an attempt to fluctuate others (Capsize & Gross, 2007). Natalie ought to take into account her state of affairs and determine the place she stands alongside together with her arenas.
Natalie is significantly relying on her dad and mother for emotional security and acceptance, by not being honest and open about her sexuality she has misplaced her private identification and now lacks a method of self. Natalie is worthwhile at work, takes wonderful care of herself, and is financially comfortable. Natalie dependency stems from the precise truth her identification is simply full when she feels feels accepted. By Natalie dwelling her life based totally on acceptance by her dad and mother, she is collaborating within the place of a rescuer inside the Karma Triangle. Rescuers in Karma Triangle actually really feel powerless and make habits choices out of concern.
The need to please her dad and mother signifies her private neediness and divulges her dependency. To offset her need to please her dad and mother she moreover rebels in opposition to them in an attempt to free herself from the administration (Hostage, 2008). The cycle of pleasing then rebelling would not work. It is further extra more likely to set off new points since habits choices made are out of concern. Natalie really must marry Michelle and have a child. Initially Natalie believed she wished acceptance from her dad and mother. After self-reflecting on the alternate options Natalie has made beforehand, Natalie realizes that she has not and will not purchase her dad and mother acceptance on this technique.
Natalie realizes that her future choices must be her private and with out have an effect on of her dad and mother opinions. “Hostage states that there are normally not greater devices to elucidate that the habits choices purchasers have been making are their biggest makes an try to shut the outlet between what they want and what they perceive they’re getting (2008, p. 67). ” Lastly, Natalie has to know that it is potential for her get what she wants she Merely has to make the suitable choices. Now that Natalie is ready to make utterly totally different choices in her life, we switch into the drafting board of treatment.
All through this stage, the therapeutic course of begins with a workable plan. The plan have to be straightforward and attainable. If the plan is just too subtle, Natalie would possibly grow to be discouraged and stop. Natalie ought to resolve when and the way in which she’s going to implement this plan making it measurable, the sooner the upper. After clearly drawing boundaries that may encourage Natalie independence, I would assist Natalie inside the implementation of her plan. Natalie would possibly want to fulfill alongside together with her dad and mother in a neutral location with a third event present. Having this meeting in my office would possibly make the dialog less complicated for
Natalie. No matter how Natalie dad and mother react, she have to be fixed and devoted to the plan with a objective to accumulate want she wants for herself. Natalie must be accepted. She Joins a LIGHT married couple help group the place she interacts with others who’re in comparable circumstances. Natalie apologizes to Michelle they normally set a date for his or her bridal ceremony. Natalie asks her dad and mother to return to Washington D. C. To a treatment session. In an environment the place she feels safe Natalie confronts her dad and mother with the truth about her sexuality and tells them that’s who she is and she or he cannot change.
Natalie takes once more the administration of her life and tells them how she has lived her life based totally on her guardian’s beliefs and cannot proceed to take motion. Natalie actions have lifted a heavy burden from her shoulders and now she is able to have the benefit of her life with out feeling accountable. Natalie now may make alternatives based totally on her private personal state of affairs with out worrying about acceptance from her dad and mother. CONCLUSION Being true to at the least one self holds a person to a certain stage of accountability. By becoming further accountable, evaluating ones choices and planning to proper habits, one can work to fulfill their 5 major desires.